How To Stop Being Manipulative: (16 Things You Should Do)

This new article will show you everything you need to know about how to stop being manipulative.

It’s upsetting to be called a manipulator, but it’s a behavior you can change. You may have a need to control people if you grew up among manipulators.

Manipulation may have been the only way to meet your childhood demands in some circumstances. On the other hand, manipulating others can lead to the loss of relationships, so it is important to detect and stop manipulative behavior.

Then, to create lasting connections, replace harmful habits with healthy communication practices.

How To Stop Being Manipulative:

1. Consider if you are making someone feel guilty or ashamed to get what you want.

Crying, complaining, or sulking are examples of this behavior. You may be able to get what you want by making others feel terrible, but this is not a healthy way to act. If you continue to act this way, the person will eventually distance themselves from you.

You are manipulating someone’s feelings if you try to manipulate their emotions.

2. Watch out for deception or lies.

This includes intentionally misinterpreting what someone else has said or trying to distort the meaning of what you have said. To get what you want, you can also hide information.

3. Examine whether you are denying something to gain an advantage.

It is easy to influence someone by denying them what they want, such as sex, money, help, or love. Withdrawing from them or refusing to talk to them are examples of this.

You can maintain control for a while by hiding something from someone, but eventually that person will withdraw from you.

4. Examine whether you blame people for anything you have done.

Accepting responsibility for your emotions or actions may be difficult for you. It may cause you to reinterpret things to make others seem more responsible. You may even spread rumors about them to pull people over to your side.

5. Pay attention to how often you are ambiguous about what you really want.

Instead of telling someone directly what you want, you make suggestions or recommendations. This is an undesirable approach to trying to get what you want and can lead to confrontation.

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6. Recognize if you tend to manipulate others for your own benefit.

You may use manipulation to make your friends, family and co-workers like you more than others. This often involves generating rumors and creating lies among people so that everyone will flock to you for help and friendship. However, this is harmful behavior that is unfair to them.

While this may work for a short period of time, it is likely that others will eventually figure it out. In such a situation, you may lose your buddies. It is better to be open and honest with others (1).

7. Once you recognize the manipulative behavior, stop it.

Step back from the situation and think about what you are doing. Then tell the other person how you feel about the situation. Try to be as open and honest with her as possible.

It is okay to spend some time alone to process your emotions. Allow yourself to take modest steps if you want to improve your habit.

People don’t usually manipulate on purpose – in most cases, you’re simply repeating old behaviors learned from your family or previous relationships.

You don’t have to explain yourself if you’re in the middle of a conversation when you notice this behavior.

8. Pay attention to what the other person has to say about the problem.

You probably only see things through your own eyes and therefore manipulate to get what you want. Considering the feelings of others can help you overcome these habits. Allow the other person to express their thoughts and feelings without thinking about what you might say in return. Then find a compromise that allows you both to win.

9. Recognize that you won’t always reach your goal.

Achieving what you want can make you happy, but no one gets what they want all the time. If you are constantly winning, it is likely that others around you will have to give up something they want. Be willing to make concessions to make things as fair as possible.

If something is really important to you, there’s nothing wrong with not agreeing to what you want.

10. Recognize and accept responsibility for your own emotional and physical needs.

Only you have power over your own actions and emotions. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do, and then provide yourself with the resources you need to feel better.

Accepting responsibility for your own ideas and actions can be liberating, even if you feel terrible at first.

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11. If you are having trouble changing a behavior, see a counselor.

Changing a habit on your own is difficult and may not be achievable. A counselor or therapist can help you identify the behaviors you need to change and the ideas that trigger them. He or she can also help you develop new, healthier habits.

You can look for a counselor or therapist online.

12. Instead of influencing people, be honest about what you want.

Since no one can read your mind, you are the only person who knows what you want. Make it clear to your spouse, family, friends and colleagues what you need from them. Even if they say no, you can talk about how you feel and come up with a solution.

This is the most important step in ending your deceptive behavior.

13. Accept “no” as an answer without blaming others.

You may need to make an appointment with someone or you may need a favor. In some cases, they may say “no.” Instead of trying to make them feel bad for doing what you want, let it be the end of it.

14. Be understanding of others’ limitations.

People who are manipulative often exhibit a lack of self-control. Give people their own personal space and accept their life choices. Also, don’t try to change people (2).

For example, if someone has expressed a desire to rest, don’t call them.

If you are unhappy with your partner’s actions, talk to him and try to come to an agreement. Don’t try to convince him or her that he or she is the perfect partner for you.

15. When someone does something wonderful for you, return the favor.

People who are manipulative take advantage of others, but you can prevent this if you return the favor. When it’s acceptable, say thank you for the kindness you’ve received and offer something in return.

16. Don’t expect anything in return when you do pleasant things.

When others return your kindness, it feels great. On the other hand, expecting someone to behave in a certain way is manipulative. When you do pleasant things or give donations to others, adopt a “no obligation” philosophy.

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