Today you’re going to learn how to be more attractive man. And I’m not gonna be talking about pickup lines or how to convince a girl to like you. I’m gonna be talking about subtle ways that make you more attractive as a man. So let’s just get started.
How To Be More Attractive Man:
1. Take care of yourself
So this is where first impressions and „the halo effect” come into play. For example let’s say that you meet a person for the first time and they look „I didn’t really take care of themselves”. They have hair all tangled up, they don’t smell very good, you’ve never met them before so in your head that’s how they are. Even though they might not be that way that’s what we see because we have no previous information about them.
You know what they say – don’t judge the book by its cover – but that is exactly what we do. So there are many many things you can do to take care of your physical image. I tell you the core three things you need to do to start taking care of the physical image:
- Go to the gym
You don’t have to be a bodybuilder but keeping your body in shape is always a good idea.
Get a haircut, shave, brush your teeth, shower – be clean. Girls really appreciate that.
- Smell good
One of the biggest turn offs for a girl is a bad smell. You can have the best looking guy
around but if he smells bad it’s done it’s over, turn off. So you’ll don’t have to go crazy with it – just be clean, use deodorant, body spray is a plus. But of course a little bit of Cologne
goas along way. Just don’t overdo it.
Whenever you take care of yourself do it because you want to do because it makes it feel
good. If you go to the gym do it because you want to take your body to the next level. If you groom do it because it makes you feel good. Don’t do it just to get someone to like you.
2. Have standards
I consider this to be higher level of attraction creation, because having standards and actually deciding what you want in a girl makes you the chooser, not the one to be chosen. It puts you in a dominant position it makes you seem like a man that really knows what he wants. For girls i considered tas a very attractive.
Plus how many standards means that you wouldn’t just go with any girl. So girls kind of have to prove that they’re worth your time a little.
3. Have fun!
Whenever you’re out there, socializing, meeting girls and other people, don’t forget to have fun, okay? If you stress out trying to impress women all night it’s not gonna be fun for you. And the girls will notice. So don’t take yourself too seriously – have fun, make them laugh enjoy yourself. You will naturally create a vibe that is fun and flirty and that is naturally attractive. Women find that very irresistible.
4. Stop trying to hit on women
Just make friends with them. Let me tell you a secret about woman. Women put their
guards up when they feel that a guy is trying to hit on them. The reason is that when a guy hits on a girl she feels that a guy wants something from her. She feels that the guy has an end goal and that he doesn’t really care about her. So she closes up and doesn’t really respond well.
Let me give you an example just to understand this better. Let’s say that you have a girlfriend and you’re in a restaurant and you go to the bathroom and when you come back there’s a guy trying to hit on. Now he’s trying to be all seductive and stuff and your girl’s
aware that there’s a guy trying to hit on. How worried would you be? Not very much.
I mean unless your girls enjoying it and actually responding to it you wouldn’t really be worried, because this guy doesn’t really have a chance. But, let’s say that when you come back she’s in a deep conversation with this guy. Now you’re more concerned. That’s why it’s more powerful to be friends with a girl first instead of just trying to hit on her.
In the first scenario the girl probably thinks this guy’s super annoying and obnoxious. In the second scenario she probably thinks he’s a super cool guy. This is why having standards and being choosy a little bit is so important, because when you’re looking for something more than just a pretty face, they won’t feel like you need anything from them. And they sense that and they won’t feel the need to raise the guards up or close up to you, because you won’t be interested on her until you get to know her better.
5. Be genuine
So let’s say that a girl likes baseball and you pretend you like baseball even though you don’t just to build some common ground. Do not ever ever do this. If she likes the Yankees
and you like the Cubs don’t pretend you like the Yankees. It’s much more powerful to genuinely disagree with someone than to and sincerely agree with them.
Girls are really good at telling whether you’re being genuine or not. If they feel like you’re not being genuine they won’t feel like they can trust you. And as an added bonus disagreeing with someone in a good manner can create what is called breaking rapport. That this is very attractive.
6. Be interesting
Focus on your own life. See, this is the foundation of any real attraction. You can go online and learn all kinds of pickup lines but there’s nothing really there after that. You can’t really keep a girl around for a long time with just pickup lines. It’s like going to the Christmas tree and picking up the coolest-looking pressing box and opening it up and finding nothing inside.
So build a life that you have fun with that, you enjoy and you do things that are cool and interesting and you’re passionate about and you do those things not to impress anybody. Are you doing because you want to that makes a girl excited to be part of your life.
7. Don’t be afraid to establish physical contact
Physical touch done in the right way releases oxytocin which is a hormone associated with bonding and love. So when you establish physical connection you can start creating those
same emotions on a woman. And in order for this to really be effective your touch needs to be relaxed and comfortable. Do not try to do this in a sexual way. There’s many ways
that you can start out with this but if you’re not super comfortable with it yet here are a few things that you can do.
You can create a secret handshake that only you two know, you can high-five or play-fight thumb wrestle get used to having a light touch on the shoulder whenever you need to get her attention or even leaving her by the waist whenever you need a mover around. The idea is for both of you to become comfortable enough to have simple touches like things become normal.
Also, and this is important, if at any point she doesn’t feel comfortable with you touching her – stop touching.
8. Become preselected
There was a psychological study where they showed a woman a picture of a guy standing in the middle of a crowd, and they were asked to rate them on attractiveness. A second group of girls were shown the exact same picture but one detail was changed. The guy in the second picture had a girl looking and smiling at him. They were also asked to rate him on attractiveness.
And guess what happen. The second group rated the guy much higher than the previous group. It’s because they saw another woman looking and smiling at him. See, this is like the cheat code when it comes to attraction. Preselection is when a woman becomes attracted to you just because you seem attractive to other woman. So, basically hanging out with other girls automatically makes you more attractive to other woman then if you were on your own or with other male friends.
See, this is another really good reason why making friends with woman it’s a huge benefit.
Thank you for reading this article about how to be more attractive man and I really hope that you take action my advice. I wish you good luck and I hope its contents have been a good help to you.