Today you’re going to learn how to avoid saying “no”.
Most of you probably remember the Jim Carey movie “Yes Man.”
It was about a guy who was stuck in a boring job at a bank and was always getting run over by society and just falling short of ever getting want he wanted out of life.
A good guy who seemed to always finish last in everything.
Then he stumbled across a motivational like seminar hosted by a success guru who made his fame by
proclaiming everyone who makes the decision to say “yes” to everything will see a dramatic improvement in every facet of their life.
Our consummate hero, played by Jim Carey, immediately begins practicing the “yes” idea and is thrown into an absolute chaotic, yet progressively successful lifestyle.
In the end he gets the career and the girl of his dreams and lives happily ever.
So could this “yes” thing hold merit? Could anyone really change their life by simply saying “yes” to everything?
Well the odds are that if one was to say yes to every single thing that were to come along, they would possibly end up doing time in prison or find themselves in quite a bit of turmoil and unhappiness.
How To Avoid Saying “No”
Yet although saying yes to everything not be the absolute best idea in the world, there does seem to be merit in someone who avoids saying “No” to everything.
True, like Jim Carey’s character in “Yes Man,” a lot of doors will open up to those who say yes all the time, yet how would it work in real life situations?
“No” Never Opens Doors
There are so many times that we quickly say “no” to things we are unsure of, know little about or simply seems like too much trouble.
The word “No” has become so easily a part of our daily vocabulary that we quite often say it without putting any thought to the possibility of saying yes.
The word no can have several different effects on the person it is said to. It mainly depends on what the question was to invoke the “No!” response to begin with.
No could break someone’s heart, destroy their confidence, and ruin their career goals or any number of things.
But what does saying no mean for the person whom is saying it?
On the outside, it would appear that their saying no has very little impact on them at all. Did it change anything in their life? Did it cause them grief or pain? How did it affect them at all?
Odds are pretty good that it didn’t change a thing. Or did it? What did the “no” person really miss out on?
A new employee who might have changed the direction of the company? A new friend? An amazing adventure? A new opportunity that might have opened up?
Therein lies the point. What did they miss out on?
Rather than what little change it had on them, but what change could’ve happen had they not said “No.” You see, saying no can just as easily have detrimental effects as it could any other outcome.
But how would you know without taking the plunge into the unknown world of “Yes.” Well, saying no only has one possible outcome. Yes, on the other hand could have several.
Very little rides with a “No.” In fact, hardly anything changes at all.
There is an old saying that goes “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” That old adage holds true for the word no as well. No doors open, no chances took and quite often you are prevented from ever knowing what might have been.
Now no one is saying you should become a “yes man,” all the time. Yet there does seem to be quite a few of those who succeed rather quickly in comparison to those who do not practice eliminating no from their vocabulary.
“Yes” Shows Trust and Commitment
While a lot of folks might consider someone who is quick to say “no” a strong willed, no pushover and assertive person, others see it in a much different way indeed.
In fact, many believe that rather than displaying assertive control when saying no, the person is actually showing a degree of laziness.
Saying yes shows people that you are up for the challenge and that you are in no way willing to simply just settle for the mundane.
It means you are a risk taker. You will at least try and put forth the effort needed to show you are capable of whatever comes your way.
Yes also shows you are willing to accept the task at hand as something that simply must be done.
The typical yes man at an office job or out in the field is generally well liked by his bosses and management. They are routinely favored and when an important task arises, it is generally the yes man who is offered the opportunity first.
While saying no might make you feel more in control, the real world isn’t made up of fairytale dreams and happy endings where bosses like offering high ranking positions and raises to those who stand up to them.
Most see “no” as the safe and easy answer to avoid failure or to avoid work at all.
Saying yes often impresses people and can even catch them off guard when they were expecting a no instead. Now most corporate leaders do not want someone who simply says yes to everything.
Being a yes man too often can make someone think little of your integrity.
However, if you are suddenly faced with a proposition out of the blue and believe that you could do it and make headway, then you should forego your fears and at least attempt it right?
Some of the most successful leaders in the world (1) have found themselves in that predicament at some point throughout their careers.
While not all were always interested or had time to commit to certain task, it was their passion for success and the motivation to promote themselves that forced most to take the road less traveled in most circumstances.
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What Drives You?
You know, there isn’t many of us common folk that one could ask that isn’t wanting to live the dream. Be successful, rich and famous. To be a leader instead of a follower.
We all really want that don’t we?
Yet how many of us consistently fail to put forth the effort and really work for it?
It is like those who blame their unemployment or lack of work on those from other countries who take jobs from them.
When you think about it, many of us only have ourselves to blame for this.
So many companies and employers try desperately to fill positions and find that only those willing to work, will actually work.
They might place ads in papers, online and even ask people to come in and put in an application.
Yet who are the ones actually showing up at 7:30 am the next morning begging for an opportunity to show them they can work?
You guessed it, the ones people keep blaming for stealing jobs.
Just because a person shows up at work an hour early and is willing, ready and fully capable of doing the job, doesn’t mean they actually stole the job from anyone.
It just means they were more prepared, willing and ready to work than others.
True, this does often hinder those of you that are trying hard, but rather than blame those who got the job, blame all those who turned it down. They are the real issue with the problem.
All the folks that could have accepted the job, yet simply said “no” to idea.
So many of us at one time or another had dreams that were never fulfilled. The reason?
At some point you were faced with a decision and whether out of fear of failure or fear of the unknown, you took the safest road possible.
Have you ever sat back and thought how different things might have turned out had you just taken that risk?
Dreams are rarely just handed out to those who want them.
You have to work for the dream to happen and be willing to take risks. Sometimes these risks might seem extreme and sometimes they require you to take chances you might not be up to taking.
Yet without trying, how on earth will you ever know for sure?
The word no holds far too many of us back and keeps us from fulfilling our dreams and climbing the ladder of success.
It opens no doors and leaves you with possible regrets in the future. This never has to happen really. It just comes down to a plain choice we all have to make at some point.
There are so many times that we quickly say “no” to things we are unsure of, know little about or simply seems like too much trouble.
The word “No” has become so easily a part of our daily vocabulary that we quite often say it without putting any thought to the possibility of saying yes.
The word no can have several different effects on the person it is said to. It mainly depends on what the question was to invoke the “No!” response to begin with.
No could break someone’s heart, destroy their confidence, and ruin their career goals or any number of things.
But what does saying no mean for the person whom is saying it? On the outside, it would appear that their saying no has very little impact on them at all.
Did it change anything in their life? Did it cause them grief or pain? How did it affect them at all?
Odds are pretty good that it didn’t change a thing. Or did it? What did the “no” person really miss out on?
A new employee who might have changed the direction of the company? A new friend? An amazing adventure? A new opportunity that might have opened up?
Therein lies the point. What did they miss out on?
Rather than what little change it had on them, but what change could’ve happen had they not said “No.” You see, saying no can just as easily have detrimental effects as it could any other outcome.
But how would you know without taking the plunge into the unknown world of “Yes.” Well, saying no only has one possible outcome. Yes, on the other hand could have several.
Very little rides with a “No.” In fact, hardly anything changes at all.
There is an old saying that goes “Nothing changes if nothing changes.” That old adage holds true for the word no as well.
No doors open, no chances took and quite often you are prevented from ever knowing what might have been.
Now no one is saying you should become a “yes man,” all the time. Yet there does seem to be quite a few of those who succeed rather quickly in comparison to those who do not practice eliminating no from their vocabulary.
While a lot of folks might consider someone who is quick to say “no” a strong willed, no pushover and assertive person, others see it in a much different way indeed.
In fact, many believe that rather than displaying assertive control when saying no, the person is actually showing a degree of laziness.
Saying yes shows people that you are up for the challenge and that you are in no way willing to simply just settle for the mundane.
It means you are a risk taker.
You will at least try and put forth the effort needed to show you are capable of whatever comes your way.
Yes also shows you are willing to accept the task at hand as something that simply must be done. The typical yes man at an office job or out in the field is generally well liked by his bosses and management.
They are routinely favored and when an important task arises, it is generally the yes man who is offered the opportunity first.
While saying no might make you feel more in control, the real world isn’t made up of fairytale dreams and happy endings where bosses like offering high ranking positions and raises to those who stand up to them.
Most see “no” as the safe and easy answer to avoid failure or to avoid work at all.
Saying yes often (2) impresses people and can even catch them off guard when they were expecting a no instead.
Now most corporate leaders do not want someone who simply says yes to everything. Being a yes man too often can make someone think little of your integrity.
However, if you are suddenly faced with a proposition out of the blue and believe that you could do it and make headway, then you should forego your fears and at least attempt it right?
Some of the most successful leaders in the world (1https://www.resourcefulmanager.com/guides/successful-leaders/) have found themselves in that predicament at some point throughout their careers.
While not all were always interested or had time to commit to certain task, it was their passion for success and the motivation to promote themselves that forced most to take the road less traveled in most circumstances.
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Stop Using “No”
Although the word no might work in some cases, such as dealing with friends and family who ask things of us. It really serves little purpose at all in the real world.
No will assure that you go no further in your goals or career than you feel safe to attempt.
Safe. That is what no often gets us in the end. No takes us down the easy road and doesn’t provide us much room to prosper.
We do not always have to say yes to everything, but in the end saying no gets us nowhere fast.
We all make a mistake here or there throughout life. Yet it is usually the mistake of not taking an opportunity that was presented, an offer we turned down or a dream we chose not to follow that we regret the most sometimes.
If you say yes and try, even if you fail you will be better off in the long run knowing you at least tried and didn’t just give up.
How many of you look back now at an opportunity you turned down and now wish you hadn’t?
The not knowing how it would have turned out is often worse than being forced to begin again if you tried and didn’t succeed.
Not only is saying no too easy for us, but hearing it is often like daggers in our chest and makes us give up.
Always remember that famous song writers, movie stars and others who are now living their dream heard a million “no” answers before getting their big break.
So don’t let the word “No” ever stop you, hold you back or make you regret never living your dream!
Stop using “No” so much and see how it changes your life.
Thank you for reading this article about how to avoid saying “no” and I really hope that you take action my advice.
I wish you good luck and I hope its contents have been a good help to you.
