If you’ve ever wondered how to deal with people you don’t like, this article is for you.
It’s hard to ignore people you don’t like. There may be someone you don’t get along with at school, work or in your social circle.
By keeping your distance and avoiding unpleasant attitudes, you will politely disregard others. Even if you disrespect someone, you can be polite.
It will not improve the situation if you respond rudely.
Although avoiding anyone can be beneficial, if their behaviour interferes with your ability to perform your duties at work or school, you must respond somehow.
1. Keep a safe distance from it.
An effective approach to forgetting others is to avoid them. If someone gets on your nerves, move as far away from them as possible.
You should stay away from areas where he or she will be staying. If you have a nagging co-worker who still eats lunch at noon, consider having lunch outside of work or later in the day.
Stay away from social environments where you might run into another guy. If you know an annoying individual from school will be at a party this weekend, modify your plans.
2. Don’t make direct eye contact.
Pay attention to your eyes when you are in the same place with someone who annoys you. If you look at the person by mistake, you may make eye contact with them.
This could be misinterpreted as a request to approach and talk. Try not to glance at the person when you are with them. This will reduce the number of potential encounters.
3. Use someone to communicate with.
If you are dealing with others, you may need to talk to them from time to time. It may be easier to do this with the help of others. You don’t have to be rude in this situation.
For example, suppose you are working on a project in the local community.
There are people at the event who are affected by the project. You could ask another member of the community to speak to this person, or simply contact them by email or text message.
4. Keep responses to a minimum.
You can’t get away with talking to anyone, especially if you’re meeting them at work or school. When someone is talking to you, you don’t want to be completely deaf, so focus on keeping your comments to a minimum.
When someone does speak, give short answers such as “Hmmm” or “Ok”. This should signal that you would like more privacy.
5. Recognise and avoid disruptive behaviour.
Try to ignore someone who is cynical or overly dismissive of circumstances. Ignoring them can help you stay positive without being influenced by their negative attitude.
For example, if your teammate is constantly complaining about how much work they have, start avoiding them so you don’t feel guilty about your own work.
You can’t ignore something. Confront a co-worker who constantly nags you (1) to the point where you feel uncomfortable around them.
6. If possible, have friends with you.
Use the buddy system if the annoying person is really offensive to you. Try taking friends or co-workers with you to places where you are likely to run into the guy.
To ward off the annoying individual, have friends accompany you on walks between activities or have lunch with you.
7. Keep a formal attitude towards the person.
There is no need to be obsequious by ignoring someone. In fact, being rude can only make the situation worse. If you must speak to the person, do so in a formal manner.
“Please”, “Excuse me” and “Thank you” are examples of phrases to use. Maintain a rigid posture when showing the person proper etiquette.
This will show the person that you are not being aggressive, but rather that you do not want to communicate with them on a regular basis.
8. Do not laugh at him.
Ignoring others should never be interpreted as a gesture of hostility. When they address you, don’t make gestures towards them, don’t roll your eyes when they speak, or give the impression that you don’t understand them.
You may be upsetting them, and that is not a pleasant way to deal with them. Regardless of whether you avoid others, never accost them.
9. If possible, acknowledge their existence.
You cannot completely cut yourself off from anyone, especially if you interact with them. Acknowledge their involvement as much as possible in a respectful but not overly welcoming way.
Keep your sentences short and to the point when talking to this person. This will keep any tense or uncomfortable conversations at bay.
10. If possible, take a break.
People are not really aware of the situation. It’s good to make an excuse to leave if someone tries to pester you, even if you’ve tried to politely show that you don’t want to talk to them.
A co-worker, for example, is very dismissive of the personal part of your existence. He persists in his efforts even though you answer him in no uncertain terms.
11. Speak up for yourself in the heat of the moment.
Irritation can also cross the line making you feel irritated or intimidated. Defending yourself in these situations is most advisable. Stand your ground and deal with the issue.
Inform the person that you have crossed a boundary in a calm manner. Make it clear that you do not accept this behaviour.
12. Keep track of bad behaviour at work or education.
Document any discomfort you experience at work or school because of an obnoxious co-worker or student. When this situation occurs, you’ll want to be sure you have the facts to send to a higher authority.
Make a note of what was said, who saw it, and the date and time each time the person behaves inappropriately towards you.
You will have plenty of facts to choose from if you need to make a formal complaint.
13. Have a calm conversation with the person about their behaviour.
A polite approach to a person who constantly annoys you is perfectly acceptaable. Wait until you have a moment of privacy with the person to gently and mutually explain what they are doing wrong.
Let the person know how you feel about their behaviour (2). Finally, let the person know who you can inform if their behaviour does not change.
Instead of criticising the guest, let them know what behaviour you will not accept. This will help prevent conflict from escalating.
14. It is a good idea to invite an authoritative person from outside.
If someone’s behaviour does not change after a direct confrontation, call a higher authority. If you are at school, inform the teacher or principal.
If you’re at university, talk to someone in Human Resources. You have the right to feel comfortable in your place of work or study.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read my article about how to deal with people you don’t like. I sincerely hope its contents have been a good help to you. +