How To Use Reverse Psychology On Someone: 12-Step Guide

This new article will show you everything you need to know about how to use reverse psychology on someone.

Reverse psychology is a technique that involves convincing someone to behave or say something by telling them the opposite of what you actually want them to do. For instance, by telling a child that they cannot eat all of their vegetables, they might end up eating them all (which is what you want them to do).

Reverse psychology can be a powerful tool in advertising and communication, and it may work well in some situations. However, it’s important to know when it’s appropriate to use reverse psychology and when it’s not.

How To Use Reverse Psychology On Someone:

1. To employ reverse psychology, you should start by presenting an option to the person you want to influence.

Even if they would typically resist this option, make sure that it is embedded in their mind. For instance, if you are deciding between two parties on a Friday night, and you prefer the board game party while your friend prefers the movie night, make your friend aware of your option by saying something like “Ellie and Sara are doing that board game night, but it seems kind of boring to me.”

2. To make the option more attractive, you can use subtle methods to pique the other person’s interest.

For example, in the scenario where you want to convince your friend to attend the board game party, you could casually mention the exciting board games that will be played at the event. Additionally, you can create a sense of desire by talking about the positive qualities of the hosts, such as their great taste in wine or their ability to create a fun atmosphere. By bringing up fun memories you had with them, you can also make the idea of attending their party more appealing to your friend.

3. Nonverbal cues can also be effective in using reverse psychology.

One way to do this is by playing a board game on your phone or computer in front of the person you want to convince to attend the board game party. This could create a sense of curiosity and interest in the person.

You could also invite the hosts of the party, Ellie and Sara, out for coffee with your friend before the event, allowing them to reconnect and build excitement for the upcoming party. By using these nonverbal cues, you can reinforce the positive qualities of the option you want them to choose.

4. After you have successfully made the option attractive, you should start to discourage or argue against it to give the person a final push.

By doing so, you can take advantage of the person’s natural resistance to being told what to do and make them more likely to choose the option you want. In the scenario where you want to convince your friend to attend the board game party, you can wait until the night of the event and ask if they want to go to Ellie and Sara’s or the movie night, but add a comment like “I think Ellie and Sara’s thing may be a tad boring.” If your friend is still indecisive, you can be more overt and say, “We can always go to Ellie and Sara’s another time.” This will create a sense of urgency and make the board game party seem like the more desirable option.

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5. After using reverse psychology to convince someone to choose a particular option, you should push the person to make a final decision.

By doing so, you can create a sense of ownership over the decision in the person’s mind and make them feel like they are in control. You can ask them politely what they want to do, and wait for their response.

In the example of choosing between a board game party or a movie night, you can say something like, “So, we can go to Ellie and Sara’s, or the movie night. What do you think? It’s your decision.”

This statement creates the illusion of freedom of choice (1) while subtly influencing the person to choose the desired option. If you have successfully used reverse psychology, your friend will likely choose to attend the board game party without realizing that they were influenced by your actions.

6. Before using reverse psychology, it is important to consider the personality types of the individuals involved in the interaction.

Reverse psychology may not be effective on everyone, as some people are more responsive to direct requests than indirect manipulation. People who are typically resistant or rebellious may be more likely to respond positively to reverse psychology.

Conversely, individuals who are generally agreeable and compliant may not be as receptive to this tactic. To determine if someone is a good candidate for reverse psychology, consider your past interactions with them.

Do they typically conform to expectations, or do they often resist? Those who are more independent and like to challenge the status quo may be more likely to respond well to reverse psychology than those who are more conformist.

7. When using reverse psychology, especially with young children, it is important to keep things lighthearted and humorous.

The approach should be used to make the child feel like they are outsmarting you. For example, if you want your son to make his bed, you could suggest that he wait until you finish brushing your teeth because he needs more help. He may take this as a challenge and start making his bed on his own.

When using reverse psychology with adults, it’s best to allow them to think that they are asserting their autonomy. For instance, if you want to watch a foreign film with subtitles but your friend prefers a lighthearted comedy, you could say, “I’m not sure I have the attention span for subtitles.” Your friend may then insist on the foreign film, wanting to prove that they have a better attention span.

8. Before using reverse psychology, it’s important to consider what the other person wants in a situation.

In some cases, a more complex approach to reverse psychology may be necessary if someone’s desire to do something outweighs their need to resist. For example, if your friend wants to attend a concert alone in a dangerous part of town, simply using reverse psychology like saying “you should go, you only live once” could be ineffective.

Instead, try arguing against yourself by saying something like, “I can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do, but I’m worried about your safety in that part of town.” This approach encourages your friend to think for themselves and make their own decision while still expressing your concern.

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9. When using reverse psychology, it is important to keep your ultimate goal in mind.

You should remind yourself of what you want the other person to do and keep that in mind during the conversation. Sometimes, using reverse psychology can lead to arguments, and it’s easy to get sidetracked and lose focus on your objective. So, it’s essential to stay on track and stay focused on your desired outcome.

10. Although reverse psychology can be effective in certain situations, it is important to avoid overusing it.

Remember that reverse psychology is a form of manipulation (2) and using it repeatedly can cause damage to relationships. It should not be the primary method of communication, but rather a tool to be used in moments of compromise or persuasion.

Continuously relying on reverse psychology can create resentment and frustration, leading to strained relationships. It’s important to use it sparingly and to communicate honestly and directly with others.

11. It’s important to remain composed when using reverse psychology, even when dealing with stubborn individuals like children.

The process of persuasion can take some time, and it can be easy to get frustrated when things aren’t going according to plan. However, it’s crucial to maintain your cool, even if the person you’re trying to influence has an emotional outburst. By staying patient and level-headed, you’ll increase your chances of success in the long run.

12. It is important to avoid using reverse psychology in serious situations where the consequences could be severe.

For instance, situations involving someone’s health and wellbeing should not involve reverse psychology. In cases where someone is resistant to seeing a doctor, for example, it’s important not to use reverse psychology that could reinforce their fear or reluctance.

Reverse psychology is a subtle form of manipulation that can be used to persuade people to do something by encouraging them to do the opposite. To use reverse psychology effectively, it’s important to consider the personality type of the person you’re dealing with, as well as their wants and desires.

It’s also important to stay calm and focused on your end goal, and to avoid using reverse psychology in serious situations where someone’s health and wellbeing is at stake. Reverse psychology should be used sparingly and in lighthearted situations, especially with children, and not as the mainstay of an individual’s method of communication.

I want to thank you for taking the time to read my article about how to use reverse psychology on someone. I sincerely hope its contents have been a good help to you.

Przemkas Mosky
Przemkas Mosky started Perfect 24 Hours in 2017. He is a Personal Productivity Specialist, blogger and entrepreneur. He also works as a coach assisting people to increase their motivation, social skills or leadership abilities. Read more here