Today you’re going to learn how to get out of an unhappy relationship. All relationships are not created equal, what you should know is that you have the right to be happy, the right to fantasize on your own Cinderella or Snow White story.
He might look like a prince charming and irresistible but there is a point in holding on to something just because you don’t want to be lonely. Yes, he is good looking, nice six packs, a good account balance, and great in bed…that doesn’t give him the right to treat you like a trash, YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP.
Do not believe in superstitions when it comes to relationships, You can kept on trying till you find the right guy that will give you the respect and happiness that you are entitled to as a woman, If it can work for ME and 10 of my friends, it will work for you.
I have to admit, what I’m about to write is very personal to me because I’ve been down this road so many times before.
You’ve met the guy you think is the perfect man. He’s perfect in so many ways, your friends envy you, but he doesn’t treat you right. You are head-over-heels attracted to him, even though he is cheating on you but either you have are holding on to faith that he will change or turning a blind eye.
You just scared to face the fact that something is just not right. All you think about is “God! He is damn hot, he is so fantastic! He last longer in bed and you fall in love with him. But he is not head-over-heels in love with you, not even an inch of love and care.
On paper, everything may look great, but you know that something is missing. It’s almost like you cannot put it into words or explain it to anybody because whenever you do, everybody tells you how amazing this man is for you. All of your single friends tell you that they’d love to meet somebody that great. You agree with them but feel that there needs to be something more — just something that feels more right. Remember! It is your life and I don’t think you want to look old out of weary before the real prince charming sees you.
Check your happiness barometer. If the needle is pointing to storm clouds all the time instead of the smiley sunshine face and you can’t see a way of swinging it back, then you’ve got a problem. Happiness is a state of being, we all should strive for; after all, life is short and can only be made longer by misery.
Ending a relationship is never easy and requires though and strength. It’s going to leave a wound, but you’ll eventually heal but I will take you through a seven quick step into making a Break up for your happiness.
How To Get Out Of An Unhappy Relationship
Step1: Make A Clean Break
NOW you know it’s over, you need to start fresh and meet someone compatible. This is the real tough bit to actually end it. It’s not going to be fun, but you have to be courageous. You have to actually say the words, “It’s over.” There can’t be any confusion. There’s no good way, but some ways are better than others, I stayed in bed for a whole week after mine. This indeed the toughest step, you don’t have weeks to wallow in bed, so move to the next step.
Step 2: Be Direct
Summon all the courage, look towards your happiness, think about prince charming on the way, that should be your positive motivator. Tell him face to face. No post-it notes on the refrigerator for him to find when he comes home to an empty house or letters from lawyers. The only exception to this rule is if you suspect he may become violent. But at least leave a phone message explaining yourself.
Don’t be ambiguous. I can’t stress this enough. Many of us women don’t want to hurt men’s feelings or try to soften the blow, so they wrap the discussion up in vagaries. We say things like, “Things aren’t working out right now, but that doesn’t mean I’ll always feel that way.” We should let him know what we need which is happiness before he walks away. The more humane thing is just to say it straight. Don’t disguise what you mean.
Step 3: Meet Him in a Semi-Public Place
I met him in a restaurant to talk so I won’t feel confined and trapped—Bar is a good place also. You don’t have to look at each other, but you’re side by side. Look your best, you never know who you might see on the way, let him see what he will be missing, make him gloat but don’t be desperate, you shouldn’t care about his opinion.
Step 4: Feed his Ego
Start by telling him loads of positive things about him, how it does it right, lol. Make him feel important, that his something about guys, they always want to feel like the alpha of the pack, the ego is always there, tap into it.
Step 5: Focus Your Reasoning on You—Not Him
Here is the point where you tell him what you want, not what you think but what you want.
“I am at a point in my life where I need someone to make me feel happy and treat me like a queen that I am” just don’t try giving an excuse about relationship not being a priority”.
Learn to take charge of your heart. It is your own, your property and responsibility.
Step6: Steer Clear of Him for a Month
No phone calls, FB messages, texts, nada. It’s easier to accept the breakup if you aren’t checking in on each other, You probably should ask for the help of your friends if you can not hold on yourself.
If he asks to still be friends with you, don’t lie and say that’s possible. Tell him, “I hope one day we can be friends, but right now we need to have some time apart.”
Step 7: HAVE FUN!!
Above all, have fun, do things that makes you laugh, smiling will get you that guy of yours, love you too.
Now, you can see, happy relationship is not a fairytale but it is real, my friend used to say ‘Happy relationship is in ME’. What about you!!!
Thank you for reading this article about how to get out of an unhappy relationship and I really hope that you take action my advice. I wish you good luck and I hope its contents have been a good help to you.