This new article will show you everything you need to know about how to enjoy being alone. A huge number of people around the world hates being alone. It is possible that everyone feels so at a certain moment of their life.
We are afraid to be without friends, family or our partner. We feel uncomfortable travelling alone to foreign places and we are lost when there is no one around us who could give us a helping hand. We are afraid of having to live without someone reliable. We are afraid that we are not strong enough and good enough to stand on our own two feet.
It’s natural. This resistance against being alone. We all feel it somewhere deep inside, although sometimes we want to deny it or ignore it. And it causes a huge stress in our lives.
To avoid being alone, we are constantly trying to get into relationships. Online and offline. We’re dating, sometimes even getting married with the wrong person, just to have someone to lean on to fill this empty space in our lives. We watch television for hours, eat junk food or buy toys that we do not need – as a prosthesis of love. Especially love for ourselves.
How can this process be reversed? Be careful and full of self-acceptance. It’s difficult, but you can really appreciate loneliness. Isolation can be liberating, it can be an opportunity to get to know yourself better, deeper. It is good to stay alone and discover what is unknown about yourself. We can thus find out who we really are and what is going on in this whole life.
Being alone is not a reason for fear. Isolation can be beautiful.
And what can happen when you start to appreciate loneliness yourself, you will find below.
How To Enjoy Being Alone:
1. You develop the strength you need and about which you had no idea that it is in you.
Every time I mention that maybe it’s worth experiencing loneliness, I hear: “It’s scary, how can one go through life alone when we’re inexperienced and we do not know many things?” Yes, it can arouse fear. And that’s the reason to learn it. Sometimes we are afraid of something that is good for us. It will make us more mature. At the beginning, such a experience can be painful, but do not let yourself get stuck in a situation just because you are afraid to go alone for a moment.
Because it is much better to learn to be strong and stand firmly on two feet than to count on others. When you’ll start to be self-sufficient, asking for help from time to time will be a sign of strength, not a weakness.
You do not know how to manage finances? Start learning. Read a book or follow money
management blogs. Learn new skills and use them.
You do not know how to protect yourself? Find out which situations can be threatening. Pay attention to the surroundings. Learn the basics of self-defense. Feel more confident when you walk around the city alone.
Regardless of what skill you want to strengthen in yourself, the key is to take small steps, persevere, day by day, in the direction in which you want to move.
A journey through life is really a continuous learning. Process. You become stronger the longer you travel. It’s a bit like a child who returns home for the first time. It can be a little scary at the first and sometimes also the second and third time, but it becomes even more pleasant over time.
2. Your relationship will strengthen and you will be less dependent on your partner.
Does wanting to learn loneliness mean that you can not be in a relationship? Absolutely not, but if you do not feel comfortable with yourself, then you will not feel comfortable in any relationship. Why?
Because you become dependent. When your thoughts and behaviours revolve around another person, it often happens that you forget your needs and this can be harmful. When you allow someone else to be responsible for how you feel (and vice versa), you both become dependent on each other. And suddenly, it turns out that one can not plan anything without the acceptance from the other side. All activities – even watching tv – begin to be negotiated and must be accepted by both sides. When one begins to feel bad, the most important thing is to make them feel better.
The biggest problem with this dependence is that sooner or later aversion to a partner is born of it. If they get mad over small things from time to time, because they had a hopeless day at work, it is perfectly understandable. But if they want you to feel, that your life goal should be to improve their mood 24/7, sooner or later it will start to tire you and you will have enough of theit needs and desires. You will take care of their needs if they take care of yours.
3. You learn that being alone does not mean loneliness.
Being alone does not mean that you are lonely, and being alone does not mean that you are left to fend on yourself. You can be lonely even in a crowded room, right? The problem
is not that we are alone, but that we feel lonely despite the presence of other people.
Remember to choose your friends wisely. It is always better to be alone than in a bad company. If someone’s presence does not serve you – go away. Do not just stay because you’re afraid to be alone with yourself.
4. You find the mental space to support your decisions.
Everyone you care about DOES NOT HAVE TO support every decision you make. When you are surrounded by people 24/7, it is extremely difficult to achieve.
Family and friends will not always support your plans, but you should still pursue them. Follow your intuition – it means that you do what YOU feel is right, even if others do not support it. Only time can decide who was right, but our instincts are rarely wrong. Even if things do not go your way, at least you will not wonder “what would happen if”. You will find out that you are going in the right direction when you will stop looking into the past with longing.
5. You will experience YOUR life more.
One of the most difficult challenges is living in your own skin. Being here and now, no matter where we are. Too often we are distracted. Food, alcohol, shopping, television, news, social media, games, smartphones. All this keeps us away from the opportunity to experience THIS moment.
We work compulsively. We are compulsively competing. We are compulsively romancing. We run away from ourselves and the reality that surrounds us. Many of us fall into such scheme so as not to have to experience emotions and to feel lonely. Solitary, or those who have to face real feelings: with fear, excitement, uncertainty, anger, joy, rejection, disappointment, sadness, etc., etc., etc.
And it does not matter if these feelings are positive or negative. They are certainly overpowering and exhausting. That is why we prefer to dull.
The truth is that each of us is addicted. From avoidance. Noticing this is the first step to get out of this state. I recommend starting straight away. Take a breath. Start noticing (without judgment) everything that surrounds us, all emotions. Begin to BE at this very moment, which we call life.
At the end.
Being alone can arouse fear, but also joy. We can learn it. Be finally fully ourselves. You can do various things depending only on your inner need, without waiting for the support of others. YOU are important.
Learn to be alone. You deserve it.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read my article about how to enjoy being alone. I sincerely hope its contents have been a good help to you.