Want to know how to break codependency habits? Then you’re in the right place.
If you happen to be in a relationship where you feel chocked and abused cannot survive without that person in your life; or you feel a ached to other peoples’ problems and want to support them through begging, criticism or behaving like the victim; or you are that type of person who forgets about your needs and feelings and instead put others’ first, then you may be suffering from codependency. By following these steps you might be able to overcome this.
How To Break Codependency Habits:
1. Admit you have a problem
If you have always been in denial about being codependent, and have spiritualized, rationalized and even tried to jus fy it for the longest me possible; accepting that you have that problem might be very terrifying especially if you have spent your life me denying it just to brash of their pain , fear of rejection or shame away, but it is a step towards overcoming it.
2. Face your childhood issues
Your codependency may have resulted from frustrated basic needs when you were a child. These needs include being protected, nurtured, and appreciated but instead you may have undergone boundary invasion through discouraged self-expression, abuse or punishment. Facing these issues when grown may be accompanied with pain but it will help you get over them.
3. Learn how to say’ NO’
People suﬀering from codependence are always considered as the ‘YES’ people. They always accept when called upon to do things that everyone else never have me for even if they literally do not have time for doing it. You need to learn to say ‘NO’ and stand by it.
4. Focus on yourself
Many codependent people consider these as being selfish. They tend feel guilty when taking care of themselves. To overcome this will need you to realize that you cannot take care of other people if you cannot yourself. Love yourself and make your needs and wants a priority. Slowly by slowly, you will get the good feeling associated with loving yourself.
5. Seek counseling
This can be helpful especially to those in need of emotional healing from childhood wounds. For this to work you may need to seek counseling from someone: you feel safe around to tell of all your painful and emotional experience, with personal boundaries considered good, able to assist you learn healthy methods of exploring significant areas unresolved from your past and is able to assist you learn healthy self-relating ways.
6. Join a support group
Overcoming codependence need you to be surrounded by persons who will not always be putting you down. In support groups you will be able to hear stories of other people suﬀering from the same condition, and from that learn how to cope with yours.
7. Detach from toxic people
You will need to free yourself from people and rela onships that drain you of your physical, emo onal and spiritual energy. Prioritize yourself first. Look for relationships that benefit you as much as you benefit others.
8. Activities and hobbies
Engage in sporing activities, other activities and hobbies that would not only reward you but also energize you with a sense of sa sfac on and accomplishment. This will boost your feel good feeling about yourself.
9. Meditate and pray
This will help you reconnect with your higher self. Through prayer you might be able to identify what God has in store for you.
10. Focus on your targets
See yourself as having a ained them, and then think of what good comes with that. This will boosts your urge, drive and motivation to want to achieve you dreams.