Today you’re going to learn about things to give up if you want to be successful.
The fact that everyone makes mistakes (yes, you too) is nothing terrible. Worse, if the mistake is considered the right way to achieve the goal. I will show you 5 correct habits in planning – without them it will be difficult to achieve your goal.
Things To Give Up If You Want To Be Successful
1. Tracking activity of one type
This, in my opinion, the most common mistake. We consider – rightly – a specific goal to be the number one, we focus on, for example, the development of a higher payout or loss of weight, or greater joy in family life. The problem is that by focusing only on one goal, it is easy to forget that there are other areas of life. Going for professional success, family happiness and activity are sacrificed – the plan is to finish the project faster, find an additional job or finish an additional course.
The worst thing you can do is to implement such a plan. Why? Because he is completely unbalanced. You are not just yourself at work, and work is not all your life. By writing tasks for the next day, week, month or year, you must save goals from each area of life: and work project, and exercises in the gym, and putting books in the library. Fact – creating such a plan will take more time, but will allow you to look at life from a wider perspective.
2. Focusing on the result
In fact, sitting for 12 hours at work is not an achievement. The same may not be desirable at all, instead of half an hour, to devote to exercises after an hour a day. It is a trap in which we have been driven by all the authors of the application for smartphones and originators of brilliant, simple like wire prescriptions for everything: just 6000 thousand steps per day, 6 hours at work, hours with family, one page of the book every day. Even assuming that any of these risky hypotheses is true, you can not assume that you suddenly change all habits and from anti-theses you will become an example in every respect.
The change that I am introducing is a change in the way we evaluate results. Not as absolute numbers, but as the ratio of intentions to the actually achieved result. For some, achieving the above-mentioned standards is a bet, for others – the summit of dreams. However, the point is not to align any arbitrary norm, but to overcome yourself, that is, to work out your own intentions.
3. A bit of egocentrism
It will hurt: I have your goals in deep respect. They do not care for a penny. Do you want to finish maraton? Finish yourself. Earn 10,000 a month? It hangs to me. Do what you want. You have your goals, I have my own, so informing me on FB that you did what you wanted might irritate me at best. Save yourself. And that’s why you should turn off Endomondo.
And it could impress, under certain conditions, that you will run 10 kilometers, but I can send you contact to a few people who do so much for the morning running. Once – reaching the goal is not a competition with others, and two – making this event on the scale of all friends is inappropriate. It draws your attention away from what was supposed to be in the center. Cause heck, what was the purpose? Finishing the marathon or winning a thousand likes?
Therefore, another change is, on the one hand, the abandonment of the idea of comparing yourself to others, and on the other – encouraging others to compare. Get away from “social media” and work on goals: it will be a faster way to the goal.
4. Give your attention to the goals
Do not make idiotic goals: oh, from today I will be washing dishes after dinner. I do not have any headaches to bother with duperels. Identify serious but achievable goals, and then organize a way to evaluate their implementation. This should not be entirely discretionary. So if you use the paper-and-pencil method for tracking, then create comfortable tables or statements, reports or comparisons, and if you use programs for the phone, those that give a good view of the degree of goal completion.
Why so? Because if the goal is purely declarative and it can not be proved in any way by itself, then in the situation of its “almost-achieving” you will fall into a trap. Or you wrongly consider yourself a winner (and remember that running 42 kilometers is not a completed marathon – there is no “ending” yet) or defeated (and perhaps it was close and some modest expression of recognition).
However, in order to resolve such dilemmas, one must be able to review progress in an objective way. History is remembered is distorted – without a permanent information carrier it is impossible to assess objectively how much has been done.
5. Give yourself the right to make mistakes
Of course – the achievement of goals is evaluated zero-one, because either the goal is achieved or not. However, it is worth leaving a certain margin of error. Setting a goal “on watch” is difficult and it is worth revising predictions after some time. This is the most serious reason to use the program on your smartphone instead of paper. Usually a good application with a few touches will allow you to rebuild the plan, set new goals and adapt the current ones.
Why to do it? Sometimes the failure to achieve the goal results only from laziness and the ability to actively seek more or less advanced excuses. Sometimes, however, the goal is simply wrong or there are some objective obstacles. It is worth giving yourself the right to make a mistake when setting a goal, because only this can be an unattainable goal that can be replaced with a rational one.
Not everything is a competition, and certainly not a competition with other people. Planning focuses on you – do not make mistakes that make you think differently. When choosing a program to monitor your progress, take even one that is set for a long time, but which will be more convenient later, when you start working. Do not look at life through the prism of individual goals – look at them as a whole. A single puzzel is necessary to create a full picture, but even one, even if it was beautiful, does not give a complete picture.