This new article will show you everything you need to know about how to communicate more effectively.
We talk to other people every day. We rarely are free from contacts with them. Unless someone chooses a hermit life style, it is different. However, I will not write about hermits. I will focus on what is important in interpersonal communication. And what is so important about it? I invite you to read the article.
As can be inferred from this text, it is important to specify what you intend to say. Observing the way people communicate, it can be concluded that this is an element that is missing in conversations and information transfer. Fortunately, this is not a problem that affects everyone, but it is often found in many people. And that’s why it’s worth taking a closer look at it and getting rid of it. So how to deal with it?
How To Communicate More Effectively
Respect your interlocutor
I assume that you are a person who prefers honest conversations, specific information and the lack of “smal talk” in dialogue – that is, moving unnecessary threads that are not needed. Such an attitude is most praiseworthy. Unfortunately, people tend to talk too much, pass on “beefed up”information or talk only to speak. When he talks to such people, thoughts like “when will he get to the point?” , “What does he / she actually say?” Or “when will he end?” Come to mind..
And these are the most reasonable thoughts. It is, after all, a waste of our time and a recipe for discouraging conversations and contacts with such people. And where are the particulars in all of this? As they appear, it’s probably after an hour of unnecessary monologue that can be avoided. Hardly anyone likes it, but many people do it. It would be good to change it. Exactly. What to do to personalize your own statements?
The most important thing is to focus on the main message. So what you really want to say. This is certainly a matter of course, and yet people often forget about it. They put in a lot of minor threads during the conversation, which have nothing to do with the main one. Let two people talk for example. One wants to give the other information about the benefits of the new car that he acquired.
Meanwhile, instead of praising only the new acquisition for the heavens and its possibilities begins to talk about what she cooked for dinner, with whom she spoke, who she met, etc. Maybe this person thinks that the transfer of such “significant”information is necessary, but the caller may not be interested in it at all. And most often it is. It is not enough that such a chatter takes time and does not contribute anything to the conversation.
There is also a high probability that the listener will become irritated and impatient. This is something that is certainly worth paying attention to during conversations and the willingness to provide particulars. It is sad that some people do not seem to notice it and are not interested in the listener’s feelings. And in particular, they should pay attention. The second person is not a container for all kinds of information. You should respect your listener and interlocutor; you should also respect his feelings and time. He also has his life and duties and unnecessary talk effectively pulls him away from it. And it is worth remembering about this.
In order to even better concretize his own statement, apart from focusing on the main message, it would be necessary to avoid all ambiguities, understatements and guesses. Leaving the interlocutor unsuccessful and consequently guessing is not a reasonable solution. It can be particularly painful, for example, when one side tells the other to guess something. At this point I will use another example. There was a conversation between partners, which, however, was “cut off” . Something happened during the conversation – maybe there was a difference of opinion – and one of the parties decided that “smarter”it will interrupt it.
The first of them has been left with conjecture, and the second is hoping that the first one will guess 100% what the other wants and what it wants to convey. It’s a comedy – you can do it. The absurdity of such a situation could be funny if it was not for the sad view that is observed every day. How many people can break a relationship, knowledge or business by understatement and leaving others with conjectures? Do not count on the other side guessing what we mean. You have to say it! For the sake of the fact that these guesses are often different and the interlocutor can draw completely different conclusions; other than we assumed. It is a mistake, therefore, to accept the assumption that at our request the other party will know exactly what we want.
Such certainty is usually brutally interrupted by a completely different guess of the interlocutor. To avoid any misunderstandings, I encourage you to finish what began to speak. And this ending is not like:”I’m finishing and you’re going to default . ” I mean, I have to explain exactly what is meant. Instead of understatements, ambiguities and conjectures, it is more reasonable to insert a statement that has arms and legs and specific information. This will prevent unpleasant consequences. In order to be understood, one must speak intelligibly. Misunderstanding is usually not due to the fault of the listener only due to the fault of the person who speaks.
How the other person understands the statement depends on how it is conveyed. As with a dish on a tray. It can be delicious food, well prepared and you can see and know exactly what you eat. It can also be badly prepared, tasteless, mixed up and you have no idea what it actually is. It’s the same with conversations, statements and information. Well served”Fall” preferably.
What else can you add? In the context of the above statements, it will not be a surprise, as I will add that the culture of speech also matters. Using vulgar words or shouting does not affect the quality of communication and communication. Sometimes people “bear” a bit . The consequences of this “bearing” can be fatal. And it will be worse if there is a combination of the above three factors: lack of focus on the main message, understatements and guesses, lack of a culture of expression. This is a recipe for failure. It is no wonder then that human relations are in a deplorable condition. They can still be kept in proper condition. It will be useful to have a little desire and to pay close attention to what and how to say.
Speak specifically, without ambiguity
I must admit that I am also constantly working on improving my communication skills and providing information. It is not a job that has its end. There are probably no ideal people in this respect, although I may be wrong. I assure you, however, that this work brings good benefits. And it is worth taking it. Thanks to it, a person becomes a better interlocutor and listener, and since he or she becomes better, the better he communicates with others, communicates information and is understood.
This is what life is all about, to be understood and to understand others. In the end, I have nothing else but to recommend focusing on the main message, ending what has to say in a sensible way and using a culture of expression. Good luck!